As I've reflected during this Child Abuse Prevention Month, many themes from my own life have come to mind. I'll be writing about them in the days to come; today I share with you a "light" memory - "light" in the sense that an otherwise heavy lifelong theme, that of intimidation, is the basis for the event in this essay, yet the behavior and the response to the intimidation have a humorous edge, one that makes me smile, even today. And a very familiar talent graces the anecdote :)
I hope you enjoy...
Driving recently, listening to WCBS talk radio out of New York, I heard the
spot of regular contributor, actor/author Charles Grodin. Typically less than a
minute long, Grodin’s comments cover a wide range of topics, all thoughtful musings delivered in his unique way. I can’t say I’ve
always agreed with the positions he’s proffered, but I’ve always taken the time
to turn up the volume and listen. Just hearing his voice evokes a smile – no
matter the topic – and calls up a moment in my memory, from almost 20 years
ago, a moment a dear friend of mine once proclaimed was "your moment with
Back then I was working at Klein's of Westport, a now-defunct store that,
for years, had been a fixture on Main Street in the upscale Connecticut town.
Klein's sold many things - office supplies, and stationery among them. It was
also home to (prior to the burgeoning of Barnes and Noble and Amazon) a vital,
well-respected book department. I’d had enough of my accounting career and so pursued,
then accepted, an offer from the store’s book department manager for a job.
I loved it at Klein’s. Smack dab in the middle of Westport, with a grand
window view of the bustling street, the environment was just the change I'd
needed from my accounting life. There was the occasional off day, but overall
working at the store was a welcome experience - a relief. I felt my emotional
load lighten dramatically.
Part of the fun of working at the store was the parade of celebrity
clientele. Donna Summer, Whoopi Goldberg, Harry Connick, Jr., Linda Blair,
Patty Hearst, Jose Feliciano (he'd jokingly asked for a copy of Playboy - in
Braille) among them. Early one evening, Keith Richards came strolling in.
Apparently, he'd parked behind the store and was cutting through, making his
way to Main Street. Everything came to a standstill when we realized the rock
icon was in our midst. He looked exactly like photos I'd seen over the
years, every hard-living line etched on his evocative face. That was a cool moment.
Then there was Mr. Grodin. I’d seen him in the store once or twice and I’d
taken note. He was much taller than I ever would have guessed (Wikipedia says
he’s 6 feet tall). He’d thoughtfully meander through the books, often intensely
examining an item or two. Once, he’d inquired of a co-worker about a particular
title; when he left, she’d asked me to check its availability as she was
leaving for the day. I did. When I discovered the book was no longer in print,
I called the number she’d given me to let him know.
“Hi, Mr. Grodin. This is Susan at Klein’s book department. I’m getting back
to you about [can’t remember the title of the book]. I wanted to let you know
it’s out of print. I'm sorry, but we cannot get it.”
“Okay. Well, thanks.”
“We just wanted to get back to you as soon as we could.”
“Okay. Thank you.”
“Thank you. Bye.”
So, even before "my moment" happened, Mr. G. and I had conversed.
I'd managed my nerves. I'd handled it well: business-like, respectful. At times
in my life, intimidation had gotten the better of me. Not this time. I’d gotten
the job done.
So when he sauntered in one day and brought several books to the register
for purchase, I should have been ready for him. Really. And I wasn't even the
one doing the ringing, which would have required conversation - my co-worker
was. My job was solely to gift wrap the books. No conversation necessary, just
There were a lot of books. When my co-worker was done
ringing, I was still wrapping. Co-worker moved on to next customer. I kept
wrapping. And the entire time I was wrapping, I wouldn't look up at him. I was
shy. So self-conscious. Intimidation had smacked me over the head! I knew he
was still standing right there in front of me, but I just could not bring
myself to look up. At all. Even between books. Mr. G. said nary a word. I kept
wrapping. Looking down and wrapping.
When I finally finished and I knew I had no choice but to look up at him, I
did. And there he was, Charles Grodin, looking me straight in the eyes, with a
Cheshire cat grin spread wide across his face. He knew I had to look
eventually...and this was that moment! Seeing his grin and the glint in his
eye, I just could not keep from letting out a laugh. And a “thank you.”
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
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Saturday, February 22, 2014
Psychology Magazine defines "resilience" this way: "Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever." Yep...with an intact heart and a much clearer lens.
Grateful for all good things...time to make it a great day. Hope yours is great, as well.
Thursday, February 20, 2014
It has just come to my attention that a website, calling itself Qwedbooks, is offering, for a fee, pdf downloads of my book and others. I cannot speak for any other author, but I have NOT authorized anyone other than Trafford Publishing, Amazon or me to sell my book. The Qwedbooks website, which has a root address at vfrbooks.com, requests credit card information from anyone seeking to access my book - do not give them any of your personal or financial info. My attorneys are taking care of this on my end; I feel it necessary to warn you all about this scam.
Wednesday, February 12, 2014
"Be sure you put your feet in the right place, then stand firm."
~ Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of the United States
President Lincoln had many things about which to stand firm, not the least of which was slavery. He clearly put his feet in the right place. His actions changed our culture and our country forever.
What do you stand firm about?
Put your feet in the right place and stand firm against child sexual abuse. Use your time to learn what it takes to keep kids safe, then use your voice to speak out and educate others. It's not all that hard to do.
Visit Darkness To Light - take a 2 hour training - in person or online. Many of the trainings are offered free of charge, like those we offer at the Old Colony YMCA in Massachusetts.
You can also visit Stop It Now and peruse their extensive resources.
Read, learn, share, discuss - that's what it takes to stand firm against abuse.
Put your feet in the right place; let's change our culture, our country, our world forever. Our children deserve it.
Thursday, February 6, 2014
I know, I know...it's a beer commercial! But....it just makes me smile! I love the little guy marching so tall, strutting his stuff as he leads the Clydesdale pack at 0:48. I especially love the little slurp at 0:14...after all, I am partial to a slurp from a little doggie.
Mostly, though, I love this because, as a soon-to-be-published great writer I'm very close to once wrote, "the heart wants what it wants." Ain't that the truth.